Getting Past the Affair, First Edition

. - Informative in helping to further understand some of the issues faced by people who might have been affected by an affair. As a stand-alone program for anyone attempting to make sense of what might be happening to them after an affair has been disclosed, this book would be helpful to both the 'participating partner' and 'injured partner.' It would also be a useful adjunct to working therapeutically with couples and could supplement a therapeutic program. I would recommend this book to anyone working with couple relationships and indeed to any couple I may encounter who are going though or have experienced an affair. --Sexual and Relationship Therapy, 01/08/2007 A comprehensive self-help text for couples or individuals experiencing an affair. Both the injured partner and the participating partner are specifically addressed with thought-provoking inquiries into their experiences....An underlying theme of hope is written into the entire book. --Journal of Couple & Relationship Therapy, 01/08/2007 A treasure-trove of clinical wisdom firmly informed by a bedrock of clinical research. The three authors are leading couple researchers that exemplify the scientist-practitioner model of clinical psychology....This is a thorough, thoughtfully laid out book....The book is clearly written as a standalone, self-help book but could easily be used as an adjunct to therapy....A deeply compassionate book, as the authors have clearly worked hard to distill their collective clinical and research wisdom to help couples working through the aftermath of an affair. We will be using it in our own teaching and work with couples and highly recommend it to therapists and couples alike. --The Family Psychologist, 01/08/2007 [The authors] have designed a program to help couples overcome an affair, understand why it happened, and consider their best options. A particularly helpful chapter supplies suggestions for talking to children, family members, and friends....Full of examples for applying the information; recommended. --Library Journal, 01/08/2007

Douglas K. Snyder, PhD, is Professor of Psychology and Director of Clinical Training at Texas A&M University. He received the American Psychological Associations award for Distinguished Contributions to Family Psychology for his research on marital satisfaction and therapy. He lives in College Station, Texas, where he also has a private practice. Donald H. Baucom, PhD, is Professor of Psychology at the University of North Carolina-Chapel Hill. His research, funded in part by the National Institutes of Health, focuses on couples and marriage. He lives in Chapel Hill, North Carolina, and was ranked as one of the top marital therapists and researchers in the United States by Good Housekeepings national survey of mental health professionals. Kristina Coop Gordon, PhD, is Associate Professor of Clinical Psychology at the University of Tennessee. Her research focuses on forgiveness, infidelity, and couple therapy. In addition to her academic work, she lives and maintains a private practice in Knoxville, Tennessee.

Introduction I. How Do We Stop Hurting? 1. What's Happening to Us? 2. How Do We Get Through the Day? 3. How Do We Talk with Each Other? 4. How Do We Deal with Others? 5. How Do We Care for Ourselves? II. How Did This Happen? 6. Why Stir Everything Up? 7. Was My Marriage to Blame? 8. Was It the World Around Us? 9. How Could My Partner Have Done This? 10. What Was My Role? 11. How Do I Make Sense of It All? III. Can This Marriage Be Saved? 12. How Do I Get Past the Hurt? 13. Can This Marriage Be Saved? 14. What Lies Ahead? Additional Resources