When Someone You Love Suffers from Posttraumatic Stress

"An easy-to-read, comprehensive, research-based resource. This book is filled with practical advice."--Andrew Christensen, PhD, coauthor of Reconcilable Differences "Finally, a resource for all sufferers of PTSD and their families and friends. As the wife of a veteran and an advocate who works with families dealing with combat trauma, I have been searching for a book like this. It provides up-to-date information that is relevant for readers worldwide. This book will save many relationships. It's not a book to borrow; it's one you have to own!"--Donna Reggett,Head Advocate, Ipswich District Veterans' Support Centre, Australia "Zayfert and DeViva are to be applauded for recognizing the ripple effects of trauma on loved ones, and their important role in the recovery process. Readers will find this book easy to understand and useful in making sense of their loved one's symptoms and behaviors. Drawing on their extensive clinical experience, the authors provide an array of examples that bring the effects of trauma on individuals and relationships into sharp focus. They also offer straightforward explanations about treatments that work. Anyone who cares about someone who has been traumatized will be grateful for this book."--Candice M. Monson, PhD, Department of Psychology, Toronto Metrolitan University, Canada "I only wish that I had had this book when my husband and I were dealing with the full force of his PTSD last year. My husband is heading to Afghanistan for his third tour any day, and after reading this book, I feel more prepared to handle any symptoms that may re-emerge when he returns. The book helped me understand what he was going through and give voice to my own feelings and struggles. The authors provide actual strategies for dealing with the symptoms and making sure that everyone's needs are met, not just the survivor. Just fabulous!"--M.C. "Being in a relationship with someone with PTSD is extremely hard. I was constantly wondering what I was doing wrong and why my fianc was upset. This informative book helped me understand exactly what PTSD is, why it isn't always me that is causing the problem, and why I can't just 'fix it.' It is a great resource for those looking for help in understanding their loved ones. I learned how I not only can help my fianc, but also can help myself."--B.M. -

Claudia Zayfert, PhD, a clinical psychologist, is an internationally renowned expert in cognitive-behavioral therapy who has worked with trauma survivors for over 20 years. She is Associate Professor of Psychiatry at Dartmouth Medical School and Director of the Anxiety Disorders Service at Dartmouth-Hitchcock Medical Center in Lebanon, New Hampshire. Jason C. DeViva, PhD, is a clinical psychologist in the VA Connecticut Health Care System, where he works extensively with veterans returning from Iraq and Afghanistan. Dr. DeViva is on the faculty of the University of Connecticut School of Medicine and Yale School of Medicine. He has treated both veterans and civilians with posttraumatic stress disorder and related problems for over a decade.

Introduction I. Understanding Posttraumatic Stress 1. What It Feels Like to Live with a Trauma Survivor 2. How Trauma Affects Survivors 3. Why Is Your Loved One Stuck in the Past? 4. Treatments That Can Help with PTSD and Other Problems 5. Finding a Therapist II. Helping Yourself, Helping the Survivor 6. Taking Care of Yourself 7. Setting Limits 8. Communicating Your Needs III. Coping with Specific Traumas 9. When Someone You Love Has Been Sexually Assaulted 10. When Someone You Love Has Been to War IV. Putting Your Lives Back Together 11. Reconnecting with Your Partner and Helping Your Children 12. Recovery and Beyond Resources